5 Things I’ve learned during my last 1095 sober days.

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Today marks my third year of sustained sobriety. (In this decade of life, lol)

I think we all know this isn’t my first rodeo. I’ve relapsed more often than a tik-tok dance goes viral.

I’m actually not big on the counting thing, I think it places undue pressure and creates this myth that the more days you have the wiser you are somehow. I can unequivocally say that this is not the case because I have attended meetings with people that had loads of time but didn’t seem happy and free at all. It can also create a sense of dread and fear in the addict that is contemplating getting clean & sober, forever is such a very long time.

Without further ado…here follows my list of things I’ve learned:

  1. I can do hard things There have been some gargantuan fuckups and traumas: ‘Detoxing – rehabbing’ myself whilst looking after two children; unemployment and money worries; moving halfway across the country to a place where I knew no-one; illness & death of my mother; epic marital challenges and a global pandemic. I managed to get through all of these things without necking Gin. That’s is no minor miracle, I can tell you that for nothing!
  2. Mornings are fucking awesome  I’ve gone from dreading and loathing mornings loving them. It’s my favourite part of the day. I get up every day without having to piece last night’s events together like a schizophrenic puzzle wondering what my evil twin did while I wasn’t there. 
  3. I love yoga & dare I say… exercise. At the risk of sounding like a cliché ‘sober sparkly’ person on Instagram, I have actually come to look forward to my yoga classes and even some (not all) forms of exercise. It makes me feel better and really is the only antidepressant I know of that actually works.
  4. The middle way is where it’s at The middle way describes the middle ground between attachment and aversion, between being and non-being, between form and emptiness, between free will and determinism. This is where all of the yin & yang business really starts making sense:)
  5. Pajamas and loungewear is the future Life is far too short to spend in uncomfortable underwire, push up bras and clothes that are too tight. Embrace the elasticated waistband and answer the siren call of soft ‘old lady’ velour fabric tracksuits, they are the closest thing to heaven you can get on earth.

I’m grateful for every sober day and grateful for every sober friend I’ve made along the road, you guys are like gold dust. 

Peace out sober peeps.

x

9 thoughts on “5 Things I’ve learned during my last 1095 sober days.

  1. Sooo glad to hear from you. Hell yeah, you can do hard things. That list says so much. I hope your world is starting to stabilize following your mom’s departure.

    I agree about the day counting. At the core I think counting is important (for me anyway) because continuous sobriety is important — if I don’t hold that out as the prize, then Wolfie takes advantages of all sorts of excuses to drink, which he thinks is periodic or occasional but my brain turns into daily. But the counting also seems to mean that if one is newly back to day 5 that none of the learning and muscle memory, etc., etc. from a previous 200 days has dissipated entirely. Which it has not.

    Thanks for checking in. Be well. Adrian

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  2. Congratulations…and you’re absolutely right about the casual clothing. Life is entirely too short to be in uncomfortable clothes. I’m a gym shorts and t shirt kind of fellow (especially since the pandemic). Take care of yourself.

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  3. Congratulations! That is a very long time. I just bagged 5yrs this month. I have spent a fortune ordering “comfort bras” and I tossed my underwires in the garbage! Careful with the elastic waist, lest the lockdown cookie binges alienate you forever from jeans.

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  4. Hello Hurrah,
    I’ve just spent the last few days reading each and every post and the comments following each post. Thank you for your wonderful blog. Both your sense of humor and honesty have been extremely helpful to me as I continue on my AF journey.

    I also wanted to say how sorry I was to hear about your mom’s passing. I have no words except to say that I’m hoping fond memories of her and the passage of time will help lessen the extreme pain you are experiencing now. My dad died suddenly 23 years ago and I never thought it would stop hurting. Eventually the pain did subside and I could smile again when I thought about him. It takes time…one day at a time. I think about him every single day.

    You take good care of yourself during this difficult time. Thank you again for your blog. You’ve helped me and I know you’ve helped countless others.

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    • Thank you that is really kind of you. I’m sorry to hear about your dad, thank you for sharing your experience with me. It gives me hope. Rgecpain is still very raw and unpredictable. Some days are much harder than others so it feels very out of my control which I hate. Take care and hope to chat again soon 🥰

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